MiniMiss’s Little Space

Pacifying with Autisticly Aar & MiniMiss

MiniMiss:  I go by MiniMiss or Mini in my little space. On Instagram, my platform is at little and pink with a little period in between all of the words. I started my little space account back in June of 23. And I've just been kind of connecting with other people in and around the community since then.

Q. Aar Jae Williams: What was the reason why you wanted to create your instagram account? In a short amount of time what has it been like?

MiniMiss: I've had other Instagram accounts that I either used for, like, personal things, or, different promotional things in more, my adult headspace. I got really inspired looking at some other little space creators, because my mama was sending them to me as A little bit of reassurance because I was really, really shy with my little space and I didn't feel super comfortable talking about it or sharing it with anybody in my real life. Having that outlet and seeing other people express it online, I felt like that was a safer place for me to share that bit of myself. To be able to express it and not feel so shy about it. I think some of the ones that she had sent me was like @kattbebee, @memoirs.of.a.panda and there are other kind and inspiring creators who I’ve been able to be in contact with them and that has been really encouraging to me to start my own account. My instagram account has become a liberating space and a positive space in sharing my little space with others. I’ve been able express that in a more open way and not feel so scared about it.

Q. Aar Jae Williams: When did your age-regression begin and what did you think it stemmed from?

MiniMiss: It's always been a part of, of who I am. Even when I was a lot younger, I remember one of the things I would get in trouble for the most is my parents would tell me to act my age because I still expressed the youthful side of my personality. As I was growing up, I used to get in trouble for baby talking. It was always really confusing to me because my parents would tell me to stop acting like a little kid, but I'm a little kid. Then weirdly that little feeling never really went away. It just stayed a part of who I am and it was something that I could express, my outward appearance I would always be really into cute clothes. I always really liked my stuffed animals and there was like, a way that I could kind of tap into it. That felt socially acceptable, and I think it was 2021 when I started getting more involved with other people that also have a little space. Parts of themselves, and I thought it was really funny because they would point out. They're like, you're a little aren't you? And I was like, I don't know what that means. It's just a part of my personality and the general aura that I give off. So I just kind of got really into, what that meant for me.

At the time I was also going through a divorce. I was going to be living alone again and starting to figure out what being myself and expressing myself fully and happily meant for me, rather than just like living the way that I thought that I was supposed to. I really started nurturing that side of myself more, and just giving my inner child the care, the love and the attention that I didn't always get when I was an actual child. I had seven siblings, so it was probably pretty difficult for my parents to keep track of all of us at once, it was just really nice to give myself that space and then also meeting mama and having her be so supportive of it. Just really giving me that opening to not feel ashamed was a really great moment and helped me to start exploring it and I feel very comfortable in it now.

Q. Aar Jae Williams: What was it like to find and discover age-regression the term, the community and that as your identity?

MiniMiss: it was really hard at first. Even though I felt like loved and accepted. I still felt a little embarrassed because I was I'm a grownup and I'm supposed to do grownup thing, even if it makes me sad and miserable all the time. I would often just regress more on my own. So whenever I was not working or usually in the evenings, I would find something to put on the TV or I would break out some of my toys that I still have to play with. Just let myself immerse in it.

It was still so early on that I felt nervous to even be open about my regression with mama. I was one on one with myself regressing for a few months before I ever actually did it in front of mama . Still kind of getting into that headspace where I don't feel so vulnerable being around other people in my little space. I'm noticing as I get more and more into it, it's becoming a comfortable part of my life. A lot of the times when I'm not working or , when I just need a little bit of extra comfort, that's it's a space that I go to.

Aar Jae Williams: It’s been a journey and a process to find confidence and acceptance in your age-regression. There is social stigma that comes with age-regression as it isn’t normalised within mainstream society although it is a natural change in state of mind that people need the safety to regress.

Q. Having created that safe space for yourself ; what has been the benefits of exploring this space for you?

MiniMiss: It's got a lot of benefits, first is. That I've been finding more and more that so many people within community, that don't necessarily feel like a part of the community themselves. Like, they're all kind and wonderful people that I've been able to meet in real life with other caregivers and littles that have been nothing but nice which has been very positive for myself to have in person socialisation with those within the age-regressor and little space community. This experience has left me feeling accepted and supported that I am able to go into that space by myself and  I'm not going to be judged for my age-regression and little side.

When I started getting into using the pacifiers I found that it was really helpful with some of my stimming behaviours. One of them that I have that's really bad is I'll lick the back of my teeth, no one can really tell when I'm doing it but if I do it for too long. Then After awhile of licking the back of my teeth I'll make my tongue bleed and that hurts. Using a pacifier it keeps my tongue from bleeding. I don't hurt myself so much. I've been finding a lot of benefits to it aside from just giving me a comfort space and making me feel less sad in general in my day to day life.

Q. Aar Jae Williams: When do you learn about stimming and what does learning about that term mean for you?

MiniMiss: It's pretty interesting for me because in my non little space life, I am in grad school working on a master's in mental health, so it is really fascinating to look into how these different mental disorders and illnesses really work to affect our brain chemistry, and how it shows up differently in different people. I know, like, in myself, it shows up a lot in people please me ways and with a lot of stimming and I talk a lot there's so many different ways that I feel like it shows up in people and getting a chance to understand how it shows up in myself, I think, makes me feel like I can connect better with other people that go through some of the same experiences that I do.And even just getting that, that space to shrink back into my comfort zone whenever I'm starting to feel overwhelmed has been very invaluable

Aar Jae Williams: You're in university education studying mental health and psychology. Challenges and struggles with mental health can be linked to age-regression and can be a part of the cause and effect of why age-regression occurs which explains the behaviours of age-regression and regressing through complex trauma that can stem from childhood. Age-regression is socially stigmatised within society at large. With this I assume that medical and academic communities may have inadequate understanding of age-regression to widely validate and aid in the end of the social stigma caused by the perception that it is ‘unhealthy’. With studying psychology I assume it has allowed you to explore and question the psychology of age-regression and the understanding within the medical community through your research do you think it has helped you to, like, learn about the understanding within the, more medical community of mental health academic community and studying in mental health, in grad school,

Q. What impact has studying psychology had on understanding your trauma, mental health and age regression? Has your graduate studies aided you in learning more about age-regression as a concept and more so and the state of mental health support and mental health services?

MiniMiss: From a mental health perspective, I have not found anything wrong with it per se and that's one thing that I was worried about when I started exploring my little space. I was questioning ‘Is the mental health community largely against age regression as a coping mechanism or a therapy?’ With that phobia of being othered with an abnormal mindset that might that may not have been accepted within the community. Since I’ve been studying I have not found substantial evidence academically and medically that is against age-regression.

There is specialists within the psychology community that work on play therapy which is primarily used with children. The purpose of play therapy is to make comfortable spaces for those children to talk and communicate in an alternative environment from talking therapy sessions and counselling which for some isn’t the right environment to be vulnerable and talking about things that may cause anxiety with the idea of discussing certain matters. There are varying benefits of play therapy. I believe that play therapy is something that adults need. As play and joy doesn't necessarily go away with age. Just because we get older it's still a part of who we are having hobbies, interests, desire to keep active and have a social life which can be done through versions of ‘play’. You see it in every animal species ever. My dog is now an adult dog. It doesn't mean that she doesn't still want to play and run around and have fun.

Our societies have shifted into a economically driven model driven by profit not the interests of our mental and mental and physical wellbeing first. Encourages people to work and grind and always be on, and that can have adverse affects on our mental wellbeing. We're not actually giving our brains time to rest and to reconnect with ourselves and what brings us joy in life.

I'm still learning a lot. I'm still in school. This next semester I'm about to start studying abnormal psychology and about how medication, interferes with our brain chemistry.  I still have a lot to learn. But I think that age regression has really great opportunities for people to explore who they are outside of their, work life balance. We've gotten into a part of our society where the work life balance leans heavily on the work side being work dominant where we are increasingly being defined by our occupations. Where's the where's the life beyond work? I don’t see the balance that where we are exploring our identities beyond work and working towards what truly makes us happy.

Q. Aar Jae Williams: You’ve stated that there are benefits of using pacifiers and it is something that is beneficial but when did you start using adult pacifiers and what made you want to try using them?

MiniMiss: I was really curious, when I started following Kidden and a few other little space influencers, I had seen them using them, and I hadn't ever really thought about using one myself. as I was really starting to explore my age-regressive personality Mama saw that curiosity in me. She gifted me my first adult sized pacifier through the mail instilling me the confidence and willing consent that I am allowed to try this and go further in exploring my age-regressive little space. She made clear that ‘I could try if  I wanted to’ and she was considered and not forceful in getting me to try it and “Maybe it's not going to be something that you enjoy, but this is, this is your first one to try if you want to.” She in no way wouldn’t have been disheartened if I didn’t like my pacifier.

When I first put my pacifier in my mouth and from starting to use my pacifier, I noticed that it really helped with some of my stimming behaviours, but most simply it was just really comfortable. I’ve always had oral fixations meaning I would bite my fingernails or try to chew on objects that were not meant to be chewed on which is not good for your teeth. I am glad that she purchased me my first pacifier, it was the first of many and I’m into decorating pacifiers now however the first pacifier she gifted me she was intentional about getting me one that was plain. Knowing how crafty I am she brought a plain pacifier so that if I wanted to I could get to decorate my pacifier. Now having I decorated several pacifiers some have been gifted on to friends to friends. It's a fun comfort item. Decorating pacifiers and making them fashionable and more sensory friendly and playful has helped me embrace using pacifiers by making it fun. Now I I have many. The one I have on me right now clipped on to my outfit as I we record this interview, I decorated and it has sensory beads on it so I can play and fidget with. Now I just have them all over my house.

Q. Aar Jae Williams:  Can you explain about-the relation who you have with your partner who you refer to as mama how did you get into that relationship with her where she was introduced to you little space taking on the role of being your care giver?

MiniMiss: I met her online back when I lived in Kansas. At the time I had, someone that I called daddy, he was a partner of mine previously. As I was getting to know mama, we were talking online  through a dating app I was interested in getting to know her as a person. There wasn't really any consideration with my little space because I engaged with it a little bit and I had a person that I called daddy and I would sometimes have specific little space where I would hang out with my stuffies and we would watch cartoons and that was really the extent of my regression at this time.

After getting to know each online we went on a date and to a museum and followed by getting Italian food this was a good date. She gave me a flower and was just the nicest human being I’ve ever met in my whole life. It couldn’t have gone any better. When I met her, I was thinking she was just so, so pretty. At first I was blown away, taken aback  I didn't believe she was real. She was and is incredible.

After our first date I kept wanting to see her and over time as we continued getting to know each other online I opened up with her about my other partner that I had in my little space and would refer to as ‘daddy’. This is when I decided it was right introduce her to my little space. To my surprise shocking coincidence that she has experience with age-regressive little space having previously been a caregiver. It was something that she was open to exploring as having experience in that role and was open to taking on that role within our relationship.

This was welcome news working out really well as my previous caregiver relationship broken down. ‘Daddy’ had turned out not to be a suitable partner for me to be around and engage with. We no longer speak to each other.

I was floored as I was alone in my care-giver little space after things broke down with me and ‘daddy’ but Mama she really quickly took to caring for me and give me the love I needed. She reminds me that I am safe as I crave a sense of security in allowing me to heal my inner-child and that my regressed self is in need of protection. In our new relationship I was engaging more with my little space and exploring what that is which wasn’t the same with me and Daddy it was always  more reactive. It was whatever that daddy character wanted out of my little space, more about him. It was never asked “what do I want out of my little space?” Which being the little that is the one being nurtured and cared for our caregivers are to protect us, our interest to have a healthy relationship as care giver and receiver. Mama, she really opened up that for me to be able to explore my little space that I couldn’t with Daddy.

This is why so much of the development in my age regression has happened within this last year because I've really been able to explore what it means to me and now that we live far away which does  little tricky as I moved across the country and we now in a long distance relationship and we still see each other, roughly four times a year. I went and saw her around Halloween and then I'm planning to go see her again around Valentine's day. We spend a week together. But it's tricky because she is so far away. Sometimes we'll do CGL video calls where we specifically set up time for me to be little and for her to be mama and we do activities together. The last one that we did, we did paper crafts, we cut out little Christmas sweaters, and then we decorated them some of the different craft supplies that we had, and then we showed each other what we made. Then she also taught me how to make slime. she's very good about being intentional and giving me that time even though we can't be physically close together right now I feel very lucky and loved by her.

One thing I do struggle with is that I have some big emotions. I did yesterday. Although with our long distance relationship which the lack of physical contact which is difficult we are in regular contact virtually. With regular virtual contact between texting, phone calls she is able to recognise the days where I’m expressing big emotions where mostly we text on those days she will make sure that she will call me and we’ll do a video call. It’s nice to have a caring and loving partner to talk to. Sometimes I feel silly when I'm like crying and freaking out. I am so grateful that she's always been very understanding about my emotional outbursts. She knows that if I don't give myself my little space time that I'm going to continue to be sad, cranky or frustrated because I've not been giving myself the self care that little space gives me. She reminds me to take care and do what makes me happy, makes me calm.  In our day to day lives we're always out in the world and masking parts of our identity. This is where getting comfortable with my little space and my age regression has come in. Having the Instagram account has been really helpful because it does make me feel there's others like me out there and I'm not quite so alone. But sometimes it also gets a little bit scary. people message me very uncomfortable things sometimes.

Aar Jae Williams: Age-regressive behaviours and the paraphernalia associated with the age-regression community in society at large is misunderstood as kink and is fetishised. Age-regressors for the paraphernalia economy products to aid in regression like pacifiers and adult-sized baby bottles are sold through kink and fetish stores. Age-regressors report experiences of being objectified and unconsentually sexualised. We are aware that there is the ABDL community and within the community behaviour's and things associated with age-regression can be kink and fetish related which is valid through ‘age-play’ role play within consensual engagement that is separate from non-sexual or asexual age-regression that is most often reported to link to trauma experiences. On social media photos of women and female presenting people are often sexualised on basis of your appearance how you dress and on photos of you with Mama with most often men and anonymous accounts sending unsolicited messages exploring their own desires without the consent and going against your intentions of the content.

For anyone who identifies as an nonsexual (asexual) age-regressor where their age-regressed space like yourself is a coping mechanism for complex trauma you may have had experiences to share and have a little space coping mechanisms are essential whereby you will need to be resilient and able to establish boundaries on social media or within your relationships expressing your needs and what you are comfortable with to have your little space to be a safe space.

Q. What has your experience of dealing with social stigma of age-regression within society within relationships and on social media? And, What is your relationship with Mama like and how you established boundaries between little space and your adult sexual and romantic relationship?

MiniMiss: Boundaries are really important. I don't call my partner Mama whenever we're doing grown up things she doesn't use The nicknames that she calls me when I'm in my little space when we're doing grown up things and that helps to create that separation. It's having like an inside version and outside version of what we are comfortable with expressing beyond the intimacy of our private life and in public. The linguistic change is significant to separate my little space from my mature adult life in which I deal with my adult responsibilities and matters beyond my ‘@MiniMiss’ instagram account. Setting up specific times for my little space and to voluntarily age-regress to watch my favourite cartoons and hobbies where will have my pacifier, bottle and blankie. At that point me and Mama, we'll set up  ‘at this time on this day, we'll do an activity and meet as little and care-giver’ on my terms with Mama  understanding my needs we try to do that either through video call or, whenever I'm visiting with her we always want to try to have it. We don't get to do that together very often. Just being really intentional about it, I think has been the biggest help in keeping it separated.

I don't know that we've had many issues with it leading into each other, but I have been working on getting better about telling her when I'm in little space by myself. I live by myself and I live very far away from her. It’s therapeutic and the thing that I need at that moment. I'll just grab toys or onesie or pacifier or whatever I need that day. I will do my inner child healing, regressing all by myself, but sometimes I forget to tell her and if I do remember to tell her she gets really good about switching up the way that she is talking with me, more from grown up speak and into age regressed speak. it's just a little bit different of an interaction.

Q. Aar Jae Williams:. For anyone who wants to, like, explore, , in an age aggressive relationship and explore that, what are your, like, tips and advice for people on the things that people's knowing, establishing boundaries

MiniMiss: I do have advice. I think it's just really important to be able to set those boundaries, whenever you're regressing, whether it be with people that you know in real life, if they happen to know about your age regression, I don't personally have a ton of people in real life that know about mine. But the people that I do know, very much love and care for me and want to keep me safe. So even if I'm setting boundaries with someone and they're not respecting those boundaries, I can always direct them to mama or one of my friends and be like, okay, you now have to go be bedded through this person before you can keep talking to me because you're making me uncomfortable. Like that regression and little space, , it is so sacred of a comfort space that it's so important to find people that are willing to understand and respect those boundaries. Cause otherwise you could be putting yourself in a situation that doesn't feel very good and doesn't make. you feel safe and comfortable in your little space.

Aar Jae Williams:  the importance is if you're having a caregiver or somebody who like a friend that age regresses yourself, or just any friend or family that you can talk about anything.

Just have somebody there that you're into with that. Wherever you're online with it, or in real life, just have somebody there that can talk for nasty stuff you might be dealing with or anything that may be, like, go against the boundaries and crosses the boundaries. Making sure that work on establishing what your boundaries are, and what you're okay with, and what makes you uncomfortable or makes you uncomfortable. Those are important things that, like, as you're listening to that, you think that it's important to establish. As well as listening to your emotions. Trying to work out, what the boundaries are and what you are comfortable with.

You've had a previous like relationship of somebody who, you called daddy. What was the things that you learnt from that ? Like what are the things that helped your relationship with your mama and for how to make yourself feel a bit more comfortable when you're making your age regressing content of like what boundaries they could set?

MiniMiss: that's been something that I I do kind of struggle with and I've been working on a lot. Because I am naturally very much a people pleaser. I want to make everybody happy. But I can't do that and keep myself, comfortable and safe all the time. So one of the boundaries that I have set is like, if any, other CGs want to message me. They really need to message mama first and and make sure that she says that they're safe and that they are okay to talk to me. I think I have that in one of my, like, frequently asked questions, pinned posts. But I also worked, because it was something that people were not really respecting, , on their own. I was still getting a lot of really uncomfortable messages just flooding in every day. , I ended up going through my message settings and Instagram, and I made it to where only people that like we follow each other. Yeah. So those are the only people that can message me.

Instantly. Everybody else, it will base, it'll just, it doesn't give them the option to message me and to, to talk to mama first. And then once she tells me that this person is okay to message me, then I, then I will engage with them. So that was 1 really big boundary that, that helped a lot because before I everything would go into that hidden folder on Instagram, and that's cool. It's nice to not have it immediately in my primary folder, but I would still see that little, like, notification number in the corner, which I was like now I gotta go look at it. Then I would read through it, and it was just some of the most heinous things. it was almost a little traumatising for me when I was in my age regress state. That needed to be a boundary that I put in place.

Aar Jae Williams: when you said that, from when you were younger, would start out with , when you're like baby talk or like little talk, and it's odd that sometimes Like, the best space where you feel equipped to, like, communicate and advocate for yourself. Like, one of those things that is then quite difficult now because it can, you can feel quite vulnerable in that space. It is important to find people that you can trust to , talk to definitely.

MiniMiss: it's just really valuable to have those connections with people that are safe. I'm very lucky I've got people that I can meet in real life that understand and support me and, and respect my boundaries. And there's also people that I've met online that, that are very similar in that regard. And I just, I feel really lucky to have been able to build that community, and get to know people, and to connect with so many people makes me feel like a little happy whenever I  make content and people that like will, will comment or message me just like this is really brightened up my day. it brings a smile to my face.

Aar Jae Williams: that's when like the real benefit of social media is for, like you're in Little Space and anybody who is like from a community that in real life that, you might not have an obvious place where you can.

Meet up or talk to and express yourself how you are because it's not easy to find a space where you can meet other little, littles or age aggressors and feel comfortable with, be, being open, talking about the experience and finding somebody to relate with because, like, one benefit probably for yourself with being online is, like, it's felt less lonely and it's, it's, Which I've found other people, like I've found what I said about being autistic and stuff like that.

It's from really social media where I started to see stuff like that. I remember years, like, I remember years before, I started using adult pacifiers on and off for the past five now six started with adult pacifiers like, I had the idea of, like using them again, and also, like, because, then found social media, and you can find how it's something that other people actually do, and it's not just yourself, really, and it's something that you can be quite comforting and like, you shouldn't feel too stigmatised about it and something that learning about it helps that realise that something that, being autistic, that stuff with pacifiers can help that's where , learning about the age age-regressiontion community and start following when it comes yourself.

Q. What has like the impact of the community been for you? What have you learned?

MiniMiss: I think the biggest impact is just the allowance to be myself. Going out into public, I always feel like I have to like put on a mask and be a certain person and be grown and play a part. But opening up within, the age aggressing community, just so nice to get to see other people that are similar to me, and to understand that, like, the things that make me happy and And that I enjoy doing are things that other people also enjoy and engage in. So I feel very validated in that way. I feel like, I can make a post with a Paci and in a onesie and feeling comfortable in myself, but also feeling like I can share that with other people and not get pushed away for it. It's definitely something I've come to really cherish in my life.

Aar Jae Williams: What was it like then when you made a friend with somebody, or, knowing me, like, that is an age request or not, like, meet up with them, or has it, like, been, like, finding them?What has it been like to find, to know I have a friend beyond beyond the internet?

MiniMiss: Yes, it has been very enlightening for me especially as live alone little, I, most of my little space I do by myself. It's just been really eye opening in that, I have been setting aside time to take care of me, and, and that's not always something that I was very good at I kind of wanted to take care of everybody else, and I kind of put myself on the back burner, but taking that time to invest in myself and to really understand different parts of myself has been sometimes hard but usually It's been very energizing.

I feel like I can do things more. I feel less frustrated all the time. I feel like I find more joy in life. And being able to connect with other littles has really been, just a blessing for me. , it's hard to find other age aggressors in real life to interact with. and I found a few. I recently started making friends with one who I'm hoping that we can become friends enough to do like playdates . But I know that she's also like busy sometimes., there's definitely pros and cons, but , I've also been able to find and be a part of really good online communities.

it's baby Lynn, and she will occasionally do little's only tea parties through zoom. And it's just a bunch of other little's getting together and and drinking our tea and talking to each other and getting to connect. And it's such a beautiful community to get to be a part of, and to get to know some wonderful people. I feel really excited about that.

Q. Aar Jae Williams: what does joy mean for you?

MiniMiss: joy for me is hard to explain. I think it's hard to explain a lot of emotions. but the best way I've ever figured it out is to, is to think on like , the somatic parts of what different emotions make my body feel. So when I'm really happy, I feel it like a little bit in the back of my throat and right in where like, I think my diaphragm is.

I think that's just because I might be, I don't know, breathing more aggressively. So I'm just feeling those parts of my anatomy respond. But it's just that feeling that, like, you can't, you just don't want to be sad. Like you're there's, there's nothing that could, could really take it away. And of course, I mean, I'm sure that there in real life really is, but it is, it is a very pure and internal happiness that I feel like really.

Pushes us in life to want to continue and, and to keep feeling that, but even, whenever I have to go to my grownup people job and supervise other people. I'll talk with them and if they're seeming really overwhelmed or stressed out that week, I'm just like, okay, well, what have you done this week?

That brings you joy. And if they tell me that they haven't done anything, and then I'm like, okay, well, you are now assigned homework to go do something that makes you happy. I just think it's so important for people to find that in themselves. For me, it's getting to regress a little bit into. My inner child for other people that might be going to play laser tag or, getting together with friends like it is.

It's so different for everyone, but I think that work towards feeling joy and getting to express that wholeheartedly is really what life should be all about

Q. Aar Jae Williams: what's the ultimate, comfort space, and what is the things that you really enjoy to do for self care ?

MiniMiss: I'm still working out the ideal space. it's pretty easy for me to live alone. So my whole house is just for me. I know that that's not. The case for a lot of other people , maybe they share a home with a partner or maybe they have like human children everybody's situation is a little bit different.

Mostly, I have experienced, like, done most of my little space self care in, like, my living room. And so I'll, like, put on a cartoon and put out a craft that I want to work on, or break out some of my toys and set them up to where I want to play with them. But I'm trying currently a new thing where I am changing one of the bedrooms in my apartment to be more like a little space bedroom, like a nursery.

It's a work in progress. I’m sitting in there now. I moved all my stuffies in here last night. I'm really excited to see what having a space in my home that's just for my age regression will be like and how that will like encourage and give me that time and space to be small.

Q. Aar Jae Williams:  What do you want your ‘little-space’ room to look like?

MiniMiss: I want to make it a space currently it has been a room that I just kind of store stuff in and I keep all of my crafting supplies in here , but I would like it to be a little bit more functional where I will actually work on my crafts in here and not just take all of my things to another room. Actually like stay in here. So I want to make it a space where I can put on my cartoons. I really like having background noise. I don't like it when it's too quiet as well as a space that like the floor is open and I can, keep all of my toys in here. I wish I could paint the walls, but I don't own the walls so they will probably just stay white. but I really just want it to be a space that I can come in and hang out in here and be comfortable and play video games or play dolls, or so something, make a paci and just like hang out. in a place that is specifically meant for me to regress in.

Q. Aar Jae Williams: What other crafts do you like to do ?

MiniMiss : I do a few different crafting hobbies. so I got into decorating pacifiers a while back. , but then I also like to make beaded bracelets and necklaces and earrings and I also taught myself how to sew. Which is something that I really wanted to learn to do. My grandmother used to sew when I was little and I would go into her sewing room and it always smelled the same, like a sewing room, like there's a specific smell. It has something to do with like the iron and heating the fabrics over and over again. It just makes the room smell like a sewing room. My mom knew and she taught me how to thread a sewing machine. From there, I really wanted to keep learning and since then I've made a couple of my own onesies. It's just been, it's a, it's a fun thing that I get to put my hands to and really hyperfixate on for a while.

Aar Jae Williams: What are the cartoons you like to watch? like, to comfort? TV shows or music or whatever, like, what games and all that sort of things that you like to, also like to do when you're in that space?

MiniMiss: I've always been a big Sims player. There was the original Sims games which I had a when I was growing up. Then once the new games in the Sims series came out I would purchase and play them. Now I have a bunch of the expansion packs and have a gaming computer because the expansion packs were too much for my  computer to handle. They were like, no, you got too much to put on this computer.

I'm working on playing a game called Stray right that Mama sent to me. It's a game about a little stray kitten that got lost, and he's trying to find his friends. But I got stuck on a part because there's a enemy monster that try to jump on the kitty and eat it that scared me. I had to take a break.

I am now getting into playing Animal Crossing and that new little friend that I'm hoping to get more, time to hang out with and do playdates with.

She wants to play Mario Kart with me. So those are some of my, my Video game things that I like to get into. , I always have something playing on my TV in the background. So it's usually like cycling through videos on YouTube or I'll have Bluey on. I also really like Doc McStuffins, and just classic Disney Pixar movies.I'm a big movie person. cause sometimes getting into a series is overwhelming. So I can commit two hours. But not necessarily like 30. I wish I liked getting into books more. mostly because I still am in school, I do a lot of reading anyway. I don't really seek out more books to read but when I do, they're mostly audiobooks. And I just listen while I'm doing other stuff.

Q. Aar Jae Williams: Is your age-regression something you are open about and share with your friends and family?

MiniMiss: I think other than just like my general, very youthful personality, I've not really shared my Little Space with my family. At one point I did have a friend, that used to be one of my roommates when I was in college. , she found my little page and she said “Oh my gosh you have little space” to which she was a little bit surprised. When I explained it to her she responded with saying  “honestly, that makes a lot of sense. Just so you know, I still love and support you and I'm glad that you shared that with me. Thank you. so the people that I have in real life that know about it have all been very loving and supportive about it. but I have not outwardly gone to share it with my family yet.

Q. Aar Jae Williams: Do you ever, wish you, started regressing before? Is there any things that you wish that you, like, never stopped doing in terms of regressing?

MiniMiss: never stop exploring, like, even if we get older, physically, our, Brains are still so diverse. And, we're going to constantly be finding things that we love and that we want to be a part of our lives forever. having that openness to be like, okay, well, maybe this is something I could try this is something I'm curious about. Just having that openness is so important because like, you can continue to explore. In yourself, what makes you happy and and just keep growing as a human person because life is hard sometimes, and we've got to find those little pockets of joy wherever we can.

Aar Jae Williams: The theme of my podcasts focus on neurodiversity. I’m aware that there are a lot of the age-regressions I’ve seen on-line and assume you’ll recognise this that there is a seismic intersection of the community who are diagnosed with a condition like ADHD and or autism.

Q. Do you see age-regression being neurodivergent considering its an alternative to the ‘typical’ state of mind for a developed adult?

MiniMiss: It's hard to say. I don't know that it's specifically a neurodivergent thing, considering how many kink accounts that have reached out to me about it. I don't know the word regression, or little space comes anywhere from a neurodivergent place. But then again, I've also met a lot of, and spoken with a lot of, Other littles that, like most of them are neurodivergent, so, there's possibly a really strong correlation I know in myself, I have some pretty gnarly ADHD my dad thinks I have some level of autism. To this day I have not been diagnosed with any neurodivergent conditions. I feel that it's it's important to understand where your own regression comes from and what you need from being within that space it a comfortable and healthy manner.